Problems When You Marry Your Best Friend
Many would think that marrying a best friend has a better chance to be successful, mainly because friends are like diamonds, they are forever. While this can be true, marriage is very much different with friendship. So before assuming that you are very lucky to be married to your best friend, I suggest you check out these potential problems that may arise:
Wrong feelings. It looks like very rewarding that you have the best of both worlds: friendship and love. However, you may be just confused with your feelings. Loving each other is totally different with being in love with each other. You have to talk about it seriously to make sure that you know what you will be up to. If you fail to do so, you will loose your best friend which is very painful.
Shorter period of adjustment. While it is true that knowing each other very well can help a marriage to be successful, it may also be the other way around. Take note that you will now be living in one roof, and there are still some details that you do not know about each other while you were still friends. The sad part is that they may even be the opposite of the things you thought you already know.
Overconfident. Since you will have a shorter period of adjustment, you might be overconfident with your feelings. You will not even think that there will be a possibility of betrayal. However, you must remember that too much trust can also be harmful. Therefore it is very important that you keep on sharing each others thought, just like before.
Lack of romance. Best friends always want to talk to each other, sharing thoughts and have some vacation. However, romance may not be always present and this might lessen your feelings for each other. You will tend to forget to be passionate with each other which can make the love die. Romance adds life to have a successful marriage, but it is feels weird to be romantic to your best friend.
No one to run to. If you have a personal problem, you consult your best friend. If you will have a problem with your best friend turned spouse, who will you run to? Having your best friend as your spouse does not necessarily mean you will not have problems. In fact, it may be one of the reasons of your misunderstanding. This is because you are being caught between friends and lovers.
Best friends no more. As you go along, being married will be much greater than being friends. There will be responsibilities that are for husband and wife only like raising children and working hard for the family. Even before you notice it, your friendship will be just a memory to cherish. Do not allow this to happen because in the first place, it is the friendship that led to the deeper relationship.
Close friends are always open to each other. Lovers should always be close to each other.