How To Get Your Wife Back After a Separation – Strategy For Success!
Marriage is a fragile relationship. If you bump it once too many times, rub it the wrong way or drop it, you can all of a sudden find yourself staring at a hundred pieces lying shattered at your feet – the most integral piece being your wife. Whatever the circumstances may be that have brought you to this article you are, no doubt, wondering how to get your wife back after a separation.
First, I just want to encourage you that you are not alone. Many husbands have been at this point and have implemented a plan for saving their marriage and, by following it have been successful in, getting their wives back. There is no magic formula that tells you how to get your wife back after a separation, but there certainly are some very effective steps you can take that will, all but, guarantee your success.
I want to share with you some vital tips and advice I hope you will take to heart, and apply, as you contemplate how to get your wife back after a separation:
Tip 1: Don’t give up! You must be tenacious but not obnoxious. Make up your mind that you are going to give everything you have, and do everything within your power, to win back your wife. You need to make a pact with yourself that you will leave no stone unturned… that you will leave nothing on the table, or if you are a sports fanatic, that you will “leave everything on the field”, as you put your heart and soul into rescuing your marriage. With this in mind, you must not come across as pushy, bothersome or obnoxious. Stop calling, texting, emailing or whatever other “ing” you may be doing. Your wife left because she needed time away from you to think about things and reassess your relationship. If you respect her by giving her time and space it will pay dividends in the days to come. Yes, make up your mind to not give up but be patient in the process – give her time. This is your first piece in the puzzle of how to get your wife back after a separation.
Tip 2: Get marriage counseling. Often a third-party, neutral listener and adviser, can make a huge difference in helping to work through issues and concerns. They are impartial and unbiased, calm, cool and collected, and can offer wisdom and solutions that are often overlooked by the couple who are “in the heat of the battle”. If your wife will agree to counseling great, if not, I suggest you go alone. By taking this step you will show her that you are very serious about your marriage and more than likely she will soon follow. This is the second strategic piece in the, “how to get your wife back after a separation”, puzzle. There are some great online marriage counseling programs that are available that may be a good idea for your first step.
Tip 3: Change! Be real with yourself – I’m talking brutally honest here. You need to “man-up”. Your wife didn’t leave just because you left the toilet seat up one too many times! There are some real serious issues that you are going to have to take an honest look at and come up with ways of replacing them with new, positive and constructive habits and attitudes. Consider the things your wife complained about and the things that bothered her. If they are legitimate then change them. There can be no excuses here, no ifs, ands, ors or buts. You must be willing to set your pride aside and realize you are going to have to do some things differently if you want your marriage to work. Change is the third monumental, and perhaps the pivotal, piece in the “how to get your wife back after a separation” puzzle.
Tip 4: Do NOT blame her. Yes, there are always two sides but the only side you can have any effect on, the only side you can change, is yours. If you will commit to bettering yourself and becoming the man she desires and deserves, I can all but guarantee, she will not only come back to you but that she will also commit to working on and changing the things in her life that may have added to the marital difficulties. No one wins in a finger-pointing contest so don’t even try it. Besides, when we point our finger, three are always pointing back at us! Refusing to blame your wife is the fourth piece in the puzzle of how to get your wife back after a separation.
Tip 5: Let her know you appreciate her. Far too often we take our spouses for granted. We stop doing and saying those “little” things that, in truth, make such a big difference over the long-haul. Your wife needs to know that she is valued and appreciated by you. Apologize for overlooking the many things she does, and is to you, and vocalize how much she means to you. I know it is such an over-used line, but in reality it holds true… our wives really do “complete” us – so follow in the footsteps of Jerry Maguire and let her know that she is such a vital part of your life and that she really does “complete” you! It may sound cheesy, but women really do love that kind of stuff. But don’t use it as a gimmick, my friend, you must mean it and speak it from a genuine heart – she will sense a fake a mile a way!