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Cross Creek Programs: Building Trust With Parents

Throughout the past three years, I have lost an enormous amount of trust with my parents. Now that I am starting to rework my life I want to be able to gain their trust back. However, something like this does not happen overnight. It takes time; as they say, Rome was not built in a day. So building trust with my family will be a process rather than a quick fix.

Gaining back trust has a lot do with time. I must show that I am trust worthy. That is the way it has to be done in my family. There have been so many times that my parents gave me a second chance and I threw it right back in their faces. How can you expect someone to just give you trust when you've taught them that it doesn't work?

Building trust may be a long and frustrating process for me, but that is exactly how it should be. If this were just handed to me I would have no problem breaking it. Why would I work hard to keep something I could get back so easily? Receiving trust must be earned. I know this will take many months of work and dedication. I need to display that I am capable of handling freedom and trust. I must go to AA / NA meetings, always be honest, help out around the house and keep a level head. exactly how it should be. If this were just handed to me I would have no problem breaking it. Why would I work hard to keep something I could get back so easily? Receiving trust must be earned. I know this will take many months of work and dedication. I need to display that I am capable of handling freedom and trust. I must go to AA / NA meetings, always be honest, help out around the house and keep a level head.

The real challenge will be when I'm put to the test. If one day my mom asked me to take her car and drive to the mall to buy her something, and I did just that, I would be able to build back some of her trust. But if I took the car, cruised around town and came back three hours later, I would most likely lose more trust with her.

Building trust is not only a process while in the Program, but it is a life long commitment to being honest and trustworthy. It is worth the work and I need to be patient and realize that I will gain my parents trust back one small decision and action

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